WW moved out. Whirlwind of emotions

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Excellent post. I'm getting there at times, but the revelation never sticks.

For example, back a to 2-3 years into our relationship, I became dissatisfied with our sex life. I bought "The Sex Starved Marriage" and read it. W agreed to read it, but never made it beyond half a chapter or so.

I seriously considered leaving them, my logic being that if I expressed how important something was to me, it should also be important to her (and vice-versa). In hindsight that may not have been an unreasonable position, although I blocked it out since I thought things could get better (and they did, just never consistently)

I see that pattern repeating throughout the relationship. To hear her tell it, she "Gave and gave, and I just took".

From my perspective, while she was very loving and supportive at times, she was never able to CONSISTENTLY prioritize any changes to the R that required real and substantial responsibility on her part.

The fog is still there. That and I have OCD. In most areas of life I control it very well, but it does mean that I tend to ruminate on some areas (relationships)...a. lot.