But I do have to admit I really do not like going dark because I donenjou her company. Just wish that she enjoyed mine.
Sorry you're here, man. Here's the thing - nobody likes going dark. It is incredibly hard in the beginning. But you have to remember that in the end this is about you. Do you enjoy your own company? You should. If you don't enjoy being with you, then who will? Split your time between social events and solitary activities - you are an interesting person with a lot to offer and you enjoy the company of others without needing their constant presence for validation. If your wife disagrees, then it is HER loss.
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So back to monitoring I cant tell if going out today gave me a result positive or negative? Was she waiting on me to return, perhaps curious how long I was out (note ahe never asked me where I was going) or did my absence push her away that she wants to take the pet?
I struggled with this too, and in the end was all more the fool for it. Stop over-analyzing. You SHOULD monitor results, but when it comes to you getting out and having a life, she does not get the right to have a negative reaction. That is simply the consequence of her choosing to leave. If she does not want you to move on, it is on her to say something. Unless you are sleeping around, she cannot complain.
Me: 28 H: 30 T: 9 M: 7
WAH: First half of 2017. Round 2 started in Spring 2018.
