Hang in there RR. Yes it is a bad idea to initiate. From what I have read it does two things, both bad:

1) It comes across as desperate which is very unattractive. The WAS is not attracted to the LBS at this time and this just heightens it.

2) If you are making progress with your WAS, initiating (similar to saying "I love you" to them) reminds them that they aren't attracted to you. This can setback some of the progress you have made.

I know we are guys and we have needs but you definitely don't want to do something that will push her away.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018