Help evaluating LRT progress

[Olya]

Base housing belongs to the spouse/dependant. He has to leave before you have 2. You have more rights to that house than he does.

I technically know that. What I do not know is how long I have. I expect to have a contested divorce, if it comes to that. Then again, he... he doesn't hate me. He trusts me and he is incredibly attached to me, actually, and that is where a lot of his anger is coming from. He may just let me have everything I ask for. But then what? I'd still be divorced before I am ready.

He is going overseas in a month and a half. They will likely only have this one interlude. I have very little that I can or have to stop right now. I cannot stop them sleeping together when she comes over and any attempt to do so will only encourage it, so, why jeopardize my position?

Now, if he wants to shack up with her when he comes back, I will kick him out. He will not be allowed to return to that house even for a minute. She can go ahead and arrange the apartment for him while he's gone. After all, I did all those things before. Why can't she? At that point, I will be close enough to graduation to make my demands.

If you want to keep the piece while you finish then I would do that.

Yes, I think I do. I do not want to allow him to remember me in a negative light as he goes. Also, the more he trusts me, the more control I have over our joint finances. He has made no move to freeze me out or to disentangle our lives in any meaningful way. Hell, he's made no effort to end my general power of attorney. I will not push him to take those steps before I am ready.

And on that account, I really need your advice. Am I right in deciding that I should not be dropping him off for his deployment takeoff? Am I right in deciding not to write him or send him care packages when he is overseas?

Lay out your plan and move forward.

Working on it! -)

How was your massage?

Fabulous! I had a lot of tension in my shoulders. Some of it has been worked out. I'm going back again next week. -)