V, the kids don't want to be around him right now, unless the whole family is there. I do not that S19 (20 next week, they grow up so fast!), s17, and d13 (14 in June, baby goes to high school! ACCKKKK!) have all expressed to me that H has never been there for them emotionally. Other than that I don't know their feelings about him.

H has an addictive personality and ADD. Pretty much anything he gets excited about he takes to the extreme, for a few months, then is over it and on to the next. As for the porn, I have told him in the past I don't like it and that it is a problem for him. I even tried looking/watching with him a few times, but I just don't like it. H has always tried justifying it, saying it's healthy to look at porn, and it doesn't affect his view of women/me. For a few years now he has looked at it more in secret.

I hope he sees the damage it does someday.

Me-44,H-44
S21,S19,S17,D13
M-22,T-29 (off and on prior to M)
BD:12-20-17 (H said he had things to work out in his head)
H moved out:3-4-18