So, today I found out that there is another woman.
He and OW met about a year and a half ago. She is a civilian at a base where my husband was stationed before the current duty station.
Today he texted me to ask me not to come home the weekend of the 20th. She is coming down with a couple of other of his friends. If all goes well, he plans to go to a hotel with her. They will keep long-distance relationship going while he is on deployment. Then they plan to move in together after he comes back next year.
They started talking and started up this relationship about a week ago. For now it's just an emotional affair. But I expect that by the end of the weekend of the 20th, it will be a full-blown physical affair.
Oh, and he told me that he does not want to be around me because I am no longer fun. Yes, school and stress will do that to a person. I thought that marriage was about helping one another through those times.
A part of me is crushed. I feel winded. Like I'm in a stupor. But I'm not crying. A part of me has expected this all along.
He told me that he will just divorce me sooner if I attempt to come home on the 20th. Right now, I have no choice.
I do have the entire conversation saved as text messages and I'm about to try and figure out how to permanently save it so that I have the record.
I... I'm in a place where I don't know what to do. The next month will be crazy-busy for me. I'll have no trouble keeping busy. Right now, I just feel incredibly, incredibly dirty.
And I need advice. Any advice. Really, just anything.
Me: 28 H: 30 T: 9 M: 7
WAH: First half of 2017. Round 2 started in Spring 2018.
