WW moved out. Whirlwind of emotions

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Thanks, that does make sense.
MY W has been attempting to move closer and make plans with me since she moved out. I've been pulling back.

When she told me about OM, she asked if I still wanted to climb with her or I needed time.
I said "I need time".

She has also been asking "are you OK, I mean how are you really" and things like that. Offering hugs, etc.. She's essentially trying to convince herself of how big and loving she's being. I suspect she even believes it.

When she asked what I needed (after telling me about OM) and I said "nothing you can give me", Chuck said I was punishing her and that that was very counter productive.

She's said several times that she "wants to stay friends" though and she still occasionally makes friendly overtures toward me, so I suspect she will bring it up.