WW moved out. Whirlwind of emotions

[reframe]

One of the things my coach really emphasized is that she's convinced herself she's being respectful. In that she moved out before physically consummating the relationship, and she told me about it.

He stressed that I want to pull back, but coming off like I'm punishing her or trying to control her never works.

I was concerned that saying "As long as you're with OM I don't want to see you" sounds like I'm still trying to control things. Not establishing a boundary.