Hi ItHurts, good to hear from you. Wow, four years! Time flies when you're having fun, right? I couldn't help but laugh at your XW. She still plays those games with you! She wants to emotionally snuggle up and then throw up her hands and claim that it's probably not healthy.

Anyway, I am sorry to hear about your breakup.......if you didn't want it. However, you've learned that life goes on after breakups. ((hugs))

There are some newcomers here who could probably benefit from hearing how you handled it, b/c they are struggling with just the thought of moving on without their W.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!