WW moved out. Whirlwind of emotions

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I think I can hold it together when we do taxes and keep it about business,

Why do you have to do taxes together?


We have complicated taxes, and we get significantly more money back filing as married.

I also need to ask if she wants to stay on my medical insurance (and pay me for it) since open enrollment is coming up

Why would you ask her this? Your still married correct?

Still married legally.

I'd rather change to a different plan. She currently pays me $200 a month for her health insurance premiums. Since open enrollment is a two week period, if we want to make changes, now is the time.

and discuss paying for the dogs.

I have two dogs and my W moved out, we never discussed them once. What needs to be discussed? Do they go to doggie daycare every day or something out of the ordinary?

They go to expensive training. One has behavioral issues. We're supposed to have shared custody of them, so I feel that their financial upkeep (vet bills, training etc.) is a shared responsibility.

I am sending the message that I'm not hanging out with her right now, but I don't want to appear to be pouting and withdrawing.

Why do you have to send her an email explaining your intentions?

I didn't - I the "message" I sent was by my actions :-)


Good move unfollowing her on Facebook.....I recommend you stay off SM completely.

That's a bit of a bind. I'd rather stay off SM, but it's also very instrumental in my GAL efforts, since a lot of my climbing partners use it to communicate.