WW moved out. Whirlwind of emotions

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Maika -
W.r.t. sex, there were health issues at play, we had an absolutely amazing sexual connection early on, but she was on hormonal birth control for years, which can really tank some people's libido. She claims that now that she's off it (for other health reasons) she's turned on "all the time" but she's also point blank said that she isn't attracted to me anymore.

There is also a lot of baggage and resentment over the issues we've had with it over the years. We'd seen a few therapists about it, and I thought we'd gotten past it briefly, but it was an issue that always returned. I'd considered leaving over it a few times.


Pinn -
I've been climbing (all styles from bouldering to alpine mixed) for around 15 years, it's been a real passion of mine.

One of the issues is that OM is a yoga instructor at the gym where we both go (We were both his students) and I'd rather avoid seeing them together.

I think I can hold it together when we do taxes and keep it about business,
I also need to ask if she wants to stay on my medical insurance (and pay me for it) since open enrollment is coming up. and discuss paying for the dogs. One of the points Chuck made was that I don't want to give the appearance of being punitive. I canceled our plans to have dinner then, so I am sending the message that I'm not hanging out with her right now, but I don't want to appear to be pouting and withdrawing.


She's acting kind of like a kid who said "I don't want to go to the dance with you, but we can still be friends". She doesn't seem to have any grasp of the magnitude of throwing away an 11 year relationship and wants to act like things are still fine between us. Still hugs me when she sees me, etc...

Good call on unfollowing her on Facebook. Last night I noticed that she hid changed her relationship status (to show nothing - it had still showed me as married) and it sent my mind cart wheeling again. I managed to sleep for about 5 hours...