I forgot to mention xw has been staying at my house when I'm out of town. After Job's suggestion above, I found out mlc friend came over one night and I didn't want xw to think that was why. My dad also started projects in two other cities so he isn't always available to house sit. I didn't let xw know but I did tell her she was complaining and I would make arrangements and she said no she liked house sitting and seeing the dogs so I've left it at that for now.
