YES! Today I did some house things that have been on my list for ages. And it feels darn good.
The wonderful man I'm seeing has applied for a job. The one he's doing (and has done for quite a number of years) is very intensely physical. It's taking quite a toll on his body.
Having said that, he's probably in the top 5% of the population in terms of fitness. He doesn't smoke and only has the odd drink occasionally. He'll sometimes go for a ten mile run after he gets in from work as well. So he handles the job that he's doing at the moment incredibly well.
He's tired though and ready to move to another job. It's been a very precarious kind of employment and I think he would also appreciate a steady income, with the benefits that come with a contract.
I helped him with his CV (which was a lovely thing to do together) and he skipped through the first round of the application process. He had an online interview today. I'm hoping that will be fine as well. Beyond that there is an in person interview.
Can I see a future together with him? Most definitely. Not only is he the darn sexiest man I've ever met, but I like the way he deals with life. I like the way he handles himself and situations. There's an incredible amount of thought, consideration and gentleness.
Whenever he's been staying at my house, he leaves it absolutely immaculate (without being OCD about it). The washing up is all done, dried and put away, rubbish is taken out...those kinds of things (he's like that in his own house as well).
It means I can just get on with all the things I have to do for work that day, which is incredible. Housework was always such a struggle when I was M. My XH did **nothing**. I would ask his repeatedly to help me, ask him to do specific things, but he would only ever do them very occasionally. I actually felt like I was running a hotel.
I would tell him how it made me feel, and tell him that it felt like his time was somehow more valuable than mine. But nothing changed.
Anyway, back to my new life. I feel like we are companions. He helps me with things, and for the first time in my life, I know that I am turning to someone to ask for help and to let myself be helped too. This is an exciting, joyous, and beautiful journey of discovery, both of our selves and of each other. I'm staying on it.
