I suppose there doesn't seem to be much traffic because you can only post so much about what you are doing, and once you get past trying to save your M, things calm down considerably. So being that we are not always needing advice on how to handle every situation that comes up, you will find updates being less frequent. But with that said, I think quite a few of us visit often to read any updates.
As for the funeral, if you are able to attend and make/keep the focus on your SIL and the families grieving then I think it is totally appropriate for you to attend and honor your SIL's life. If you're concerned about the "families" (I quote that because I believe you are her family) reaction, then maybe reach out to her mother or father and let them know you would like to attend and wanted to let them know ahead of time.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
