You know when you have that feeling that the way someone is treating you just doesn’t make sense and you’re missing a piece of the puzzle....I don’t know if I’m being smart in listening to my gut or if I’m letting the way I feel about H right now interfere with my ability to think straight and maybe it’s making me paranoid. Lack of trust does crazy things to someone’s mind.

Anyway...I just can’t shake this feeling that there’s something I don’t know. H gave up FB about a year ago, no real reason given, just that it was taking too much of his time. Which he spends surfing the internet anyway when they’re not busy at work but I just figured he had better stuff to surf. I noticed on H’s Facebook yesterday that he is now friends with an ex-girlfriend from high school...the girl he dated before me actually. Her mother made them stop dating bc she did not like the way H was with her daughter and H confessed to me when we started dating that he had behaved obsessively with her....he had even snuck into their home and read this girls diary. I don’t know if they knew he did that or not. Anyway, they are friends on FB and I feel like this is something he should have mentioned. It’s weirding me out quite a bit. I also noticed that there are two large payments in his bank account to a credit card company. We don’t use credit. He has an Amex card he uses for work trips. I’ve never seen a statement and was unaware he has this card. Two separate payments, one day apart, totaling like $1500.

Should I mention either of these things? If they are nothing, it would make look completely paranoid and really bad. If they are something he wouldn’t confess anyway so I probably shouldn’t mention it right?


M: 43, H: 44
Married 18 yrs, Together 26 yrs
S17, D15, D8, S6
Still living in MH