WW moved out. Whirlwind of emotions

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Reframe, I read through your entire story and I really feel for you man. I'm in the same boat, only just starting out. There's no way around it; it's the hardest, crappiest, most awful feeling thing I've ever had to go through.

I don't think you should say anything about the fact she can't pay the vet bills right now. It would only piss her off, probably. WAS/WWs become very, very selfish even if they aren't trying to be and a lot of their thinking just isn't logical or well-planned. They get caught up in what they want and these big decisions they are making for themselves to 'better their life'. Any attempt to burst the bubble is just not going to productive. It has to burst on its own and they have to deal with the aftermath and not have someone (especially your) to blame. I say this with fresh clarity after making a mistake in a convo with my W.

However, that doesn't mean you have to allow yourself to be a doormat. Obviously, these are your dogs too and you aren't going to let them go without vet care just because she can't pay half. What about saying something like, "I understand you don't have the money right now. I can cover and get them the care they need and at the end I will total it up and you can pay me half when you are able?" Just something that doesn't totally let her off the hook and leave you a doormat, but isn't an attack on her 'bubble'. The last thing you want is for her to feel like you are her bubble's enemy.

Regarding the FB issue, I think there is a way you can 'unfollow' someone or tell FB you don't want to see their posts without blocking or unfriending them. They will never the know the difference, but it might be a healthier way for you to continue to use FB without constantly seeing pics of your W and her bf and getting punched in the gut.