I understand you. True love is unconditional; no matter what our partners do, we still want to love them and it is hard to let go. No matter how bad it feels, letting go is a must for you. You can't fix him and fixing him is not your job to do. He has to want to get better all by himself and this realization might take while or never happen at all.
Bottom line is that you can't say anything that would bring him back to his senses. By trying to convince him anything, psychology tells that you are only likely to cement his views or feelings. He resents you because he thinks you are the issue. He HAS to want it himself, not convinced or forced by someone else. Don't take it personally and understand that it isn't likely something he chooses directly. It is hard to understand but work towards it - it will help you in your life by teaching you how to set yourself in someone else's shoes regardless of the situation.
Olya-I am sorry that you are here and in the situation you are in. I look forward to following your post.
Lcause- what a wonderful response and I thank you for sharing this as I am working to detach. Each day is getting a little bit easier and your words about true love from the LBS and the fact that the WW spouse needs to want it sums it all up nicely. Sometimes I read advice and wonder or question but you made it seem so simple to understand.
Me:37 W:42 T:14 yrs M:10.5 yrs D:7 D:5 BD: 1/6/18 OM Discovered: 1/29/18 WW moved out 5/12/18
