Thank you. I’m obviously struggling in my current stage because I don’t know where I am and wanting to do the right thing. And yes, reading these boards for two years, I am well aware of the many false reconciliations only to be hit with another BD and another OM.
So what’s the right thing to do when she is obviously trying in her own way to act M again? Latest developments: unsolicited, she gave me her phone password and she has started to talk more about the future as if we will remain M for the long haul.
How am I supposed to react to these things? I feel if I continue to keep her at a distance, it’s not the right thing.
I mirro her. She said ILY for the first time in many months and I said ILY too. She hugs me and I hug her back.
Is this when I initiate a R talk? Suggest counseling?
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
