No affair, no feelings...is there hope?

[Olya]

I find it interesting that she doesn't make many allowances for your current situation, because she certainly seems to give herself a lot of allowances for why she doesn't go through with the steps to commission.

I'm in the opposite boat. I did force him to continue when he got cold feet. I believed it was for the best. Given the chance to go back, I'd do it all over again. He is better off and he is safer where he is today than where he was.

So, if you think about it, you didn't push and I did, but the outcome seems to be the same.

Some of it, I think, has to do with self-love and self-worth. I don't think that either of them believes that they can do better or that they deserve better. Maybe things can change with enough love, care, and understanding. I don't know.