Frankly, i think you put up with way too much... i am sure you are going to get 2x4's from others, but not from me... i loathe your H... he is AWFUL!!! i don't know you you stomach him...
i think you are right to let him know you don't trust him... to call him out on his hypocrisy...
i have said it before, HE IS THE CAUSE of your family's disfunction... you are willing to fix it... he is FIXED on NOT FIXING it... i think he is sick and scary... he is of the "if i can't be happy, nobody can be happy." which is not too far from, "if i can't have you, nobody can have you." he is abusive and scary... and because of that, i would not give two cents for his opinions... he is twisted... his thinking is twisted...
i guess i should not be the one giving you advice... there is no way i have it in me to tell you to be kind to him... if you were my friend, my sister, my niece, i would tell you to go DARK... NO CONTACT...
honestly, i am glad you called the master manipulator out on his $h1+ because there is nothing you could say to him that is going to change him toward you... he will find fault in everything you do... yuck... what a life...
