RR17, thanks for the perspective. However, my sitch is such that a new place will be bought and paid for by me and me only, and only in my name. I won't buy a place that I wouldn't want to live in by myself post D.
Fine and dandy, but unless I misunderstand, you are looking together, no? Don't you think this has some bearing on her words and actions? As long as this pole and carrot are dangled out there you won't get an honest idea of what you are dealing with.
Listen to Maika. Head your own advice and listen to others.
I remember fooling myself into thinking my sitch is not like these others. I want this over quick and I can do this. Time is not the penalty of an uncommitted or unskilled DBer. It is just part of the equation.
Good change doesn't come fast and fast change isn't any good.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
