Has she done a complete 180 and her actions, words, and attitude line up together? And is that happening consistently? Has she shown true humility and remorse?
Thanks for the advice. Let me answer your questions:
Has she done a complete 180 and her actions, words, and attitude line up together?
Yes. But then again I'm weeks into not snooping and spying so she could just be acting and talking a good game. At this point I don't care. If she is still engaging in online EA activity there is nothing I can do about it. She is saying she no longer wants a D, and she is actively working on the MR (MCing, doing the reading and participating in the exercises).
And is that happening consistently?
Yes. The last 4-6 weeks she's been extremely consistent. Could still just be manipulative, but again I am not snooping or spying so at face-value it looks as if she has 180'd and is committed to it.
Has she shown true humility and remorse? Yes she is showing humility. Especially in the use of her devices and giving me access to them. She has completely 180'd on that. Again, maybe she has gone stealth and has gotten better at hiding things. Nothing I can do about that. Remorse? Not so much. I've stated before that the two things that still bother me is she's never expressed sorrow for her actions, and she still can't passionately kiss me. But that is where I like the advice to slow down. If 3 1/2 months ago you'd have told me we'd be where we are now, if you told me 2 months ago we'd be where we are now, I would never have believed it. If it takes longer for her to be remorseful and longer before we can have the same level intimacy we had years ago, so be it.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
