I'm right there with you Gordie, asking all the same questions. I too wonder why I still love her. I too wonder if I am just expecting what I think she should say instead of accepting that her way might be different. I think Babe and Irish might be right, and it kills me to admit that as that advice applies to me too.
My W isn't wearing a ring and I struggled with wanting to keep wearing mine because I am married and want to. I stopped because it turned out being a constant reminder of where I was in my marriage. I didn't stop wearing it to punish her or teach her any lessons, I stopped wearing it so that I could try and detach without the constant reminder. Not that I'm having luck detaching, but at least that isn't part of it. I know I'll put it back on one day when I'm ready.
Sorry, didn't mean to talk about myself in your thread, but I really sympathize with your situation because I think we feel very similarly in regards to the status of our marriages. I'm riding this thing out with you...where ever that ends up leading.
