I am in the same spot as your husband. What do you want from us? What thoughts do you want him to think? What actions do you want him to take.
He could walk away and be happy. But he chooses to suffer with you because he does love and care about you.
If he did not, he would have been gone and happy with someone else already.
Perhaps your LRT has no goal other than your own selfish need to punish and keep score?
What is the objective? To be at a spot where he is so utterly destroyed by his own feelings for you, he is incapable of bettering himself?
With all due respect, I was not the one who asked for divorce. I was not the one who indicated that we can see other people. I was not the one who decided that the marriage is not salvageable after 2 marriage counseling sessions.
I want him to work on our marriage and I want him to get individual counseling.
His unhappiness is of his own choosing. My LRT goal is to keep myself from screaming into the night like a madwoman and to retain some modicum of dignity in the process. Perhaps, it is also to make him realize that his unhappiness does not stem from me - it is all his own and he needs to address it before it eats him alive.
Me: 28 H: 30 T: 9 M: 7
WAH: First half of 2017. Round 2 started in Spring 2018.
