Olya,

I am in the same spot as your husband. What do you want from us? What thoughts do you want him to think? What actions do you want him to take.

He could walk away and be happy. But he chooses to suffer with you because he does love and care about you.

If he did not, he would have been gone and happy with someone else already.

Perhaps your LRT has no goal other than your own selfish need to punish and keep score?

What is the objective? To be at a spot where he is so utterly destroyed by his own feelings for you, he is incapable of bettering himself?