You have to do what you have to do to keep yourself from falling apart. There are two ways of doing it. One, in my opinion, is healthy. The other, not so much.
The first, which looks like what you're doing, is to pull back but leave open the opportunity to reconnect emotionally and go back to a place where you can once again depend on and look to your partner.
The second is to decide that once your partner has let you down, no matter how slight, there's no going back - everything will be too little and too late. (And that's the situation I am in)
The conversations you two are having seem to be centered primarily on what you have done or haven't done and how he feels about it. Next time he tells you that he doesn't feel like you need him, let him know, politely, that if this is what he wants from you, he has to be someone you can trust and look to when you have a problem.
Me: 28 H: 30 T: 9 M: 7
WAH: First half of 2017. Round 2 started in Spring 2018.
