Letting go for my own inner peace

[Irish M]

Sounds like the XW is trying every avenue to get to the girls. Well, she needs to step up and straighten herself out before attempting to see them. The girls will see right through her. Such a sad situation.

Hi Job
Its funny she tried this LinkedIn invite the first year gone when with OM1. Just after I spoke to SIL. I remember it well because it surprised me then too the Linkedin invite and that she just didn't create another fake Facebook and message them directly. Their privacy is set high but its open for anyone to message them. Easiest path I guess is the hardest.

My first thought is that we don’t know what BS line eew has given exsil
My next thought is, it doesn’t matter. She should have stepped upstairs for the girls.

I would love to hear that BS story. lol I've never got a reason for her to leave me. When MIL Bf came over in 2015. I showed him facts and he still said, Irish there is 2 sides to the story. I said then what I said to SIL this week. Ok tell me. I'd love to know. And is it that bad that she has to abandoned the kids too. Ok leave me , but them.. She a mom would have saved them if I am such a horrible person.

I know they are family (EX, SIL, MIL) . So for those reading. That bond will protect and ignore all facts about irrational behaviors so they don't upset your MLC'r. So never try to talk to any of them and show them facts. They will always chose family. Even if they know it is wrong.

Very tough for your Ds but they have their options to contact exw or not.

Hey RD. Yes , the girls have at least 4 ways of contacting their mom. I have always said they should in the beginning when they doubted them selves and blamed themselves for their mom going bat Sheet crazy. But now I don't anymore. They know more about he truth and new memories come out on the last few months of her living here. I was so blind.

D17 is taking psychology courses at college and they have discussed Mid Life a few times.

Most of it is healthy Mid Life. The Mid Life transition of hitting a certain age and saying. I want to go back to school at 45 and learn a new career or skill. They don't talk about the crisis part.

I'm trying to be the best dad I can be as the kids mom is mostly absent these days.

Hi JaseP
Catching up with your sitch. Your goal right now is just that. Be the best dad you can be. Not a Disney dad, but a loving, strong, caring and teacher Dad. Also, add yourself in there. Take care of you and be the best you that JaseP can be.


hope your Sundays are MLC free.

Irish