I am consistently following all of these "rules". I no longer share my thoughts or feelings, no small talk, I don't ask her plans or when shell be back. I can't remember when the last time I touched her was. I traditionally over explain at times but that has stopped. My dialog to her is short and to the point. I am seeing things about my w that I don't like and in the past excepted as w being w. It makes it easier to see her move along the journey she must take.
Just a couple of words of caution about going too silent. The children need to see their parents interact, especially at the dinner table. You should not go overboard and not say anything to your W. Many H's have problems balancing talking too much or not talking at all. The rule was designed for those men who want to talk, talk, talk, and talk more. They want to talk b/c they feel it draws the WW/MR closer.....but it doesn't. You can save small talk for the dinner table, or talk with the girls about their activities, but don't go cold silent to your W. It would make you look as if you were mad.....or just being a jerk. See what I mean? You have to stay balanced with this stuff.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
