Congrats on making new friend!!!! Hope you will find some similar activities to enjoy together.
As for MeetUp - maybe you can give another chance.
Yes - I found it quite odd that some guy hit me up after I joined a WOMENS social group but its not really any different than the random come on's that you might get from when you were on myspace (OMG I just dated myself!) or facebook. Just block the person... report the person and just move on. Its not something that happens all the time but yes there are some people on there that just troll the newbies.
I'm sorry that your H is having to leave for work out of town. Its so hard for kids to stay connected that way and even more so since yours are still dealing with some fall out.
As for you... this may really help BOTH of you but you are going to have to write some affirmations in your journal....
You are worth it... You are special... You deserve respect... You are enough... You can do this...
You need to print out Sandi's rules and tuck them in your journal. Your H may need to reach out via text/phonecall more often in regards to "kids", "business" but most of this can be worked out before he leaves. Remind yourself not to answer EVERY text or phone call. Make sure he knows that you are not available the first time he needs to connect but that you will get back to him on X.
Your H needs to see that his M world did not just freeze itself in place while he goes out to find himself. Its moving on with or without him!!!! He needs to see it and feel it and he most certainly won't if you jump at every text and call or dump all your emotions on him. Remember you've got lots of friends on this board for that.
And, don't let your mind go down the path that OW is with H during this time. This is where you create the picture in your head that OW isn't going to sit around and wait 3mo on him. She was willing to A outside her fiance' with your H so its very likely in his absence that she will either go back to leaning on her fiance' or find yet another man to fill her need for attention. Your H will be lonely and OW is going to get burnt out so there is a good chance after about a month he will be contacting you hard and heavy...
Its great that you found connection with the CR group. This is a good thing!!! Keep GALing!!!
You are doing fantastic Meg. You really are. I know at times it doesn't feel that way - you keep holding your head high!
