Andrew, I think you're spot on about her not seeing it as an affair or cheating, in fact, most people unfamiliar with the nuances of these issues would likely agree, but I totally see that having emotional feelings heavily stirred up for the first time in decades is WAY more damaging and so much harder to untangle than, say, a drunken kiss from a stranger at a night club.
My concern is that even if she's now shedding those feelings and acting like she wants to stay together (I don't allow myself to believe it though) isn't there a real risk that this could repeat again?
Our house guests have just left and so the guest room is free again. I'm REALLY struggling with forcing her in there or allowing her to stay in our more comfortable bedroom. I need to learn the tools to set strict boundaries, but I'm also worried that even if she misses me it could push her further away, mutual resentment and bitterness would set in again, and we'd be less likely to reconcile.
She keeps hugging me, calling me baby, giving the odd kiss these past two days since her last freakout six days ago. I feel like I need to call her bluff and cut off contact aside from issues relating to the kids.
I sooo appreciate any thoughts and advice. Have a great wknd, everyone!
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Me: 43 She: 43 Married 14 Together 20 D7 S6 Separation bomb Dec 2017 Reconciled 3 weeks later Jan 2018 Second separation bomb April 2018
