I totally get what you mean by being disappointed with DB as it didn't just turn things around. But we all know that if there was a magic cure to this, then all marriages could be turned around and restored - which is obviously not the case.
I would suggest that when you have some time to reflect - after you move and get your job and get settled - think about what are you specifically attached to about your previous MR? I sense, once you find that, you will be able to figure out how to let it go and not want to go back to your MR.
Do you really want to have a MR with this man who cheated on you, left you twice and has been an a$$ to you? I think that once you get some distance, you will be able to allow your self-respect and self-worth to blossom and realize what a piece of trash your H has been to you. Believe in yourself and who you are what you bring. You deserve better than him. Your daughter deserves a better parent than him.
Let him go! Stop worrying about him. Just worry about you and your daughter.
