Letting go for my own inner peace

[Irish M]

Hi Peace, Yes I guess it was meant to be this knowledge. I'll stay clear of it for sure. It offers me no comfort and only my empathy for this woman is left. I hope one day she gets well and does whats needed for her girls. Until then, I'll continue as I am . Living

Hi Bttrfly
toothless yes. It boggles the mind. I know myself, i would meet a woman in a bar or date site , If i saw she was a substance abuser and toothless.. I know it would end there.. I wish her luck

Well to my surprise SIL changed her views.

She messages me.

Irish, it going to be 3 years soon. Don't you think it has been long enough? You both need to get together and do what's best for the girls. It is them who is suffering and will have repercussions because of the adult fight. Your XW is no longer with OM1. She is getting her life back on track. Said she left OM1 for this new guy who is stable. Nice guy. Be the good person and make this happen. You should also reach out to my mom. Take care Irish and tell the girls my door is always open.

you can say after hearing that, it made me laugh and choke at the same time. Disgusted feeling after processing it.

This is from SIL who is also D17 godmother. No Xmas or birthday wishes. Is she mad? She has not once reached out and in the early stages of XW MLC. She is the one that confirmed to me that her mom did the same thing and that herself had a short episode with it. That the girls being with me is the best thing and she is so happy that this is the case . She met XW's first OM and said keep the girls away from that guy.

Now telling me to push them to see their mom. No thanks. Telling me to connect with MIL. lol .. what??

I responded.

I'm sorry SIL. I won't reach out to your mother. She made her bed, let her lay in it. She has offered zero support to the girls over these last 2.7 years. So I have nothing to offer her. This is about the girls remember.

Now your sister chose another man over them once again, she could of got herself together and use that energy on them. She chose not to. She hasn't reached out to them since last September and it was a hurtful message that made no sense.

As for yourself, you are D17 god mother. We all know where you stand in that department.

Lets say our goodbyes now and end this conversion here. I will not let it go any further. EX is in your and XMIL hands. Support her or help her or let her be. Not my job or concern any more. My job is making sure the girls are loved and safe.

no reply. I truly hope that is the last of that bull poop. Crazy.

The next day. D17 sends me an email she got from XW. Its an invite on LinkedIn. To both girls. D17 asks " whats this again?"

I explain and D17 says.. "what am I 35 lol, another old person app like Facebook."

So we are still moving forward and I'm even more detached than I thought.

like the Johnny Cash song - I don't hurt anymore. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=78c2ZNjfj_Y

Hope you are all enjoying the spring. Here its cold and fresh snow on the ground. No plans to open the pool anytime soon.