Steve, I don't know the answer to that. My husband has done many bad things but I worked to save the marriage up until he temporarily stopped sending financial support in January, at which point I called a lawyer and then called him to ask if he wants a divorce. Before that we had never discussed divorce. He said yes, he wants a divorce, then I regretted ever saying that word because I didn't want one. Currently I feel like I *should* want a divorce but I still don't, not that I think the marriage will be fixed, but because going through the process still seems so overwhelming.
I don't know. It seems you're entering a new phase in the DB process. Advice from those who are further along would be more valuable than mine, but I still believe it's worth trying to save a marriage unless your spouse exhibits totally wreckless, abusive, serial-cheating behavior.
