I asked her what she was doing about her nieces birthday as far as the card and gift. She got all bent out of shape "asking why are you going?" Told her I wasn't going. She said it made things uncomfortable and weird. I told her I could send a card on my own. She seems to be changing her tune about not keeping me away from her family. I guess this is where I make my stand.
Why are you asking what she's doing for her niece........and, what do you mean by this is where you are making your stand? This is her family!
I'm not saying your W did anything right toward you or that you've done something wrong......so don't misunderstand me. I am saying that it makes the XH look very unattractive and his motives look very suspicious when he doesn't stay away from her family events. You are shooting yourself in the foot.
Send something to the niece, but stay away.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
