Help evaluating LRT progress

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I'm glad to hear what you are doing is working! It definitely sounds like you are making progress and, while sad for him, he is learning sooner rather than later that the grass isn't greener.

I am right with you about wondering where the line is. Don't push them away, don't pursue them. Doesn't feel like a lot of room for error. I don't think you are going too far. And the fact that you are seeing results reinforces this. You are still there for him. If he really needed you and called you, would you be there? I think you would. It's his choice to shut you out, not yours. As long as he is still clear that you don't think divorce is the answer (back to Amoafwl's quote), I don't see how there would be any confusion about you having given up on him. The way he is currently treating you is not a way that is testing whether you are there. If and when he starts to wonder, he will change his approach and I don't think you will 'fail' that test.

I would say the rules say to leave it where it is. But, I know how it stings. When I saw that my wife had taken off her wedding ring, I felt it all the way down to my soul. But, I think you just have to let it be part of the process. Accepting that that's how they are feeling right now and letting them do their thing. That said, it's your home too and if you really feel it's a personal violation you can't tolerate, I don't think there's anything wrong with standing your ground and putting it back. I just don't know if that's the most "productive" option.