Like Sandi said, I don’t really have anything to say just sending you some thoughts and prayers. I can’t imagine what you are going through. You have helped lurkers like me too who never felt like they had much advice to give, but always read along. You were dealt a really bad hand and have been acting with love and dignity. Grieve. Take care of your d...and take care of you too.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
I sat there staring at your post for a good ten minutes and still find myself at a loss on what to say. This is a whole new layer of grief that I am not even sure a book addresses. My father died when I was 10, my mother and he had been divorced (married other partners) since I was 2. After I was coming home from the funeral I saw my mother weeping. The fact was, she loved that man once, she loved him enough to make children with him and that meant something.
So grieve however you need to grieve, I don't think there is a manual for this one so don't worry about following a rule book. I am so sorry, my friend.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
EastTN, this is tragic. I'm sorry I haven't been active with your thread. I can't imagine what you've been through. It seems it'll take a long, long time to fully digest what all has happened. Is the cause-of-death anything that could be related to the divorce? This is a big wake-up call to everyone here, not that we're able to control what our spouses do, but to be aware of how our actions may affect human beings that are already quite fragile despite the pain they cause us. I'll keep you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers.
My hands are clutched together beneath my chin and I'm bowed down in prayer.
I believe in Jesus and I believe he died for our sins. I know your XW is in a better place. My mother drawn in Hurricane Katrina in 2005 at the time I was 21 my sister was 16. I cried for three months straight. What got me out of that funk was the thought of my mother seeing me grieving her death. I'm from New Orleans and we send our love ones off with a party. It's called a second line. She's in a better place free from all the pain and dysfunction of this world.
You will see her on the other side. (((East)))
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
(((East))) I am not caught up on your overall sitch, but read this, and wanted so say I am so very, very sorry for this loss. This must be incredibly confusing and difficult. I hope you will continue to post on how you and your D are doing with this transition. We are here for support.
Take good care, Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
