Let's look at the wording of the above and make these goals, ok?
1 and 2 drop the word trying. Either do or don't. Try is a Weasel word.
3. Let's split that one up. I think you have two goals.
Oh and congrats on being 6 days free of alcohol. That is a huge Start. Are you 12 stepping? How are you achieving this?
4. Love the IC goal. Can I recommend a free flow journal, just free flow, just for you, needn't even be English with punctuation. Can be anything, good bad, painful etc. None will read just gets the pain on paper.
5. So how are you focusing?
6. So how are you doing this? A gratitude journal? There is a free app called gratitude garden I use almost every day. Deepak Chopra has free meditations on the Oprah site, saves a few pennies. There are great youtube meditations and of course you will be aware of Ted Talks, look at Brene Brown on shame.
Today is just great, getting through today is enough, more than enough.
Can we convert these to a purpose and goal? It's a terrific start BTW.
V
Thanks Vanilla...appreciate you and your support.
1 and 2 I am doing. Got a showing today but won't be available for 40 days though.
3 is just about being pure of any and all substances. About clarity of mind and body and spirit, so I can be clear and grounded.
4 I need all the help I can get lol
5 By being mindful and present. Having a plan. Executing the plan. Actions and behaviors correlating to good, civil interactions. I am noticing her strain to talk with me for anything, even when I am nice.
6. Just journaling in my phone, here, and in about a dozen word documents that I do every other day or so. I will check out your suggestions.
My purpose and goals today are to excel at work, see this house and if it's good, apply to rent, pick up my kids, happened some quality time. When it's time to grab their belongings from my stbxw, I will be detached and show positive indifference. She wants my the garage door opener. I will give it.
She may want to talk mediation and how to get rolling on divorce...I need to plan a bit for this. I want to do it, but the children are my #1 concern and I want to be a big part of their lives like I have always been.
She will object to this if I bring it up.
I also want a 6 month timeline to sell the marital home so I can use the equity to buy a new place next year.
