WW in MLC affair and I need advice..

[Natash]

Thank you J9 and Nicole for the postive words.

I come today for some advice. We have a dance recital this weekend. I always take my girls out to eat after the final day of the recital as a way to celebrate their hard work. This year I feel that they are old enough to appreciate some flowers after the first show. The problem I have is my W is in one of the acts this year with D7. I know buying gifts, flowers,etc for brownie points is bad but when I got thinking about it, I could see myself giving the girls flowers and my wife thinking "yep, thats my typical old husband not thinking about everyone. He gives the girls flowers and doesn't even acknowledge my participation let alone all the sacrafice I took over the dance season getting out early from work twice a week to attend the girls practices." If I were to buy her flowers (from the girls and I), I think she might see it as a nice gesture (because I stopped buying her flowers. She told me to save the money or buy something else that lasts, flowers just die and are a waste of money. I never bought little gifts here or there as I never use to go into stores shopping. She did all the shopping and then over the years would say "its the little things. You dont need to spend much on something for a nice little surprise). I guess it would be a 180 for me but I struggle doing a nice gesture for her considering her actions towards myself and my family.