Here again

[WBM]

I wanted to give an update and ask for some advice. I found out yesterday that my W has been recently talking to an ex from her teen years. I have not confronted her yet, but intend to ask about this new information and what it means. He has called her several times, always while I have been sleeping or working.

We have been getting along much better since my last post. I have been keeping to my own side of the street, and we have had very few R discussions. The ones that we have had were productive, although she says that she still wants to D and sell our home. She has not filed for D yet. The strangest thing is, she has not worn her wedding ring or any ring on her left ring finger since BD. Last week, she started wearing a ring that I gave to her after our first R on her left ring finger. I thought this was a positive sign. But now, after finding evidence of a rekindled old flame, I don't know what to think about it.

I am still searching for an alanon meeting that fits my schedule. The drinking continues, but, there hasn't been any additional verbal tantrums recently.

I wanted to add that, I read all of the threads on here, and the advice given to everyone has helped me to cope during this time tremendously.