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If your w wants to move into the guest room, don't argue the point...just let her do it. They need space and time to work through their issues and in her mind, she's going back to being a teenager. Did you read the home work posting that I provided to you? If not, please do so. You will find a lot of info that may help you. There is also a detachment thread that will provide some very easy things to help you figure out how to detach lovingly from your situation.
Keep the focus on you. One of the hardest things is accepting that she's no longer the person you fell in love with as she's going back in time. Also, I found it difficult to be patient, but you are on a journey as well. This is not a sprint...but a marathon and you certainly did not break her, therefore you can't fix her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
