Hi InFocus, i felt like i have to write to you. I am not going to be pleasant and comforting you, i believe you do no need to be comforted, but told the reality.
1. I have been there where you are. I was WH had affair, then turn back to marriage, had WAW for 3 years the she turns WW for the last 2 years. So i know how you are filling....
2.Stop pity party game, this is only prolong you way to become real Man. Further more, pity party - like how you are changed and she do not give you attention, affection and sex, and hoovering her with attention and affection and push her for sex, is something that kill her attraction and build so meany negative emotions in her.
3. Found out what your issue are, from where they are, look at you childhood, parents and your life up to now. This is noting to do with your wife. To behave as you told us in the past, there is reason, there is a need that push you there. Found out Why, accept you human, and then do not do the same old behaves and habits. For me was difficult to live with the gilt about what i have done/did not done in our marriage. This gilt stop me to become real Man and respect my self as well as to stand up for me, when my wife become using my gilt to punish (A very hurt woman, could become addicted to the filling of punishing). So accept you were very wrong, and commit to your self never do this again to any woman being with you. 4. Just stop being a mess, left the past in the and made you new past to proud of. 5.Leave you WAW alone to handle her self, i toes not matter is you consider her as WW or WAW. Do not focus of her, and be only person you need to be happy, i you lay on other to made you happy you become codependent. I have been/be there.
Man UP for US and the kids.
Thanks, I will do my best to do what you outlined here.
