Hello again dear friendly people. In laws are staying here so wife's been sleeping in my bed but says she wants to move into guest room when they leave. She's now saying she'd prefer that over the crazy expense of getting a nearby apt. Not sure if that's progress or not. I'm having trouble knowing what specifically I need to do to "detach" and what "boundaries" to set. Last night she came home so defeated by her crazy stressful job and just kept wanting to hug me. At first I didn't want to but then I could tell she really needed it. Then in bed she continued being really touchy but not necessarily in a sexual way. I was so exhausted as I'd barely slept the last two nights so I just went to bed. She said "I love you" a couple times and "I've not given up on us and I don't think I want a divorce," but when I pressed for "what's it mean that you still don't want to be married then?" And she said "I don't know...I'm talking to a therapist at 3pm tomorrow who can hopefully help me." Like I've read several times, I believe none of this and I'll skeptically accept 50% of what she does.. Thank you all again.
ps I guess because I'm new I have to wait a day before my posts show up...kinda frustrating to have any real conversation this way for now. Curious how long this probation period is for.
Me: 43 She: 43 Married 14 Together 20 D7 S6 Separation bomb Dec 2017 Reconciled 3 weeks later Jan 2018 Second separation bomb April 2018
