I have two thoughts on your situation: 1) they do tend to revisit all of the stages before they finally get to the end stage which is called acceptance. They will rant and rave and carry on terribly because they are still fighting the demons that are holding them back; or 2) it could be that he never finished replay for whatever reason and he's still experiencing replay and anger and he may have also met another woman or he's seen a woman that he thinks is attracted to and he may think that if he's ugly towards you, that you'll kick him out. Keep in mind that these are only my opinions.
Gerda, your h may need to be out on his own for him to see just how hard life is. Do whatever you need to do to keep your sanity. Five years is a long time and he should have been settling down by now and not the other way around. Please take care of yourself.
P.S. Did you have a thread of your own when you posted previously? If so, do you happen to remember the title? I would be happy to search for it and link it to this one for reference purposes.
