Got home a little earlier today and managed to have a chat with hubbie.
He's angry and miserable.
I came in at 8 o'clock at night and he was already in bed watching YouTube videos on his phone.
He is incredibly snippy with me and will not make eye contact. When I told him that it was way too early to go to bed, he snapped back "well, you can go do whatever it is that you do at night." He quickly corrected that to "play videogames," but he definitely meant last Saturday when I went hiking all day and then took myself to a movie.
He was pestering me to know when I'd bring the second bed over. (His mom has an inflatable guest bed.) I intend to delay doing that for as long as I can.
Cherry on top? His "fabulous" day that he planned with his buddy who's going to college 2 hours out from here completely fell through. The guy stood him up. Didn't even call. My husband planned restaurant, bar, and movies. The guy completely forgot about him. Now, part of me feels really bad for hubbie. But there's also a part that's totally gloating because the man has spent the better part of last year telling me that he doesn't need me because he has his friends and they will be there for him. (That's something that has yet to happen.) Of course, I only showed him the part of me that is heartbroken for him.
Also, I got to see what kind of music he had been listening too. I didn't snoop or anything. The YouTube app on our living room TV is hooked up to my account and he uses it quite a bit. So, some songs started popping up on my phone app marked as having been listened to when I know I definitely did not listen to them. Among them are "Break Down Here" by Julie Roberts, "Tin Man" by Miranda Lambert, "Not Ready to Make Nice" by Dixie Chicks, and "Remind Me" by Brad Paisley. This ain't his usual playlist.
So, what I'm doing - staying away from him and getting a life - is definitely working. My question is whether you guys think I'm taking it too far. I don't want to hurt him and I don't want to drive him away. And I really don't want him to think that I gave up on him.
Me: 28 H: 30 T: 9 M: 7
WAH: First half of 2017. Round 2 started in Spring 2018.
