There was something recently that triggered me. I told w about it and we had some tense moments.I felt myself getting angrier so I left the house and talked to a friend before things escalated. I came back and was able to address the conflict more rationally.
This is tricky. She is emotional. You are emotional.
Good to not sweep things under the rug but also how best to deal is not always clear.
Do what works. Stop doing what doesn’t. If you could do that over again, what would you do differently, if anything, or in the end was it the best that could have been done?
I also think you are very self critical and probably over analyzed this 5 minute discussion a few too many times.
Does this really matter? Are you sweating the small stuff? If you were the best version of yourself, what would you have done?
Or if it is really important, could you try a very non-SJohn6 approach? Instead of bringing it up that night when you were still emotional about it and said it in a negative tone—what would a 180 be for you?
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
