Amoafwl, thanks for the response in my last thread.

However, I thought the DBing way was to back off and let her have room to "be herself". Obviously if she was fully committed to making the MR, which she appears to be moving towards, then I would have to set the boundary of cutting off contact with this idiot. You are right, I think she likes the attention. He 8 years her junior and attention from younger men was what she was craving as she was approaching 50. It may her feel younger and wanted. Now I think she just sees him as a friend, but I will not be comfortable with that if we move into full R.

On the house, I really meant that pulling the plug would make me look like a jerk, not that it can't be done. Right now, when she isn't on the singing app, she is on Zillow house hunting. Maybe I am afraid of removing that and having her fill that time with other activities? Might be some truth to that. But truth be told I have wanted a new house for several years, with more land. And financially we are ready to do that.

But yes, you are right, she is not fully committed yet. Though as I said she told the MC that she was leaning much more towards staying in the MR than D. Of course, my behavior this morning probably didn't help in that regard.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018