Can I really do this?

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AnotherStander.
I appreciate the input and you weighing in.

First let me say I am not putting our financial collapse in her lap. That was 3 years ago. We have made it through and are on the upswing. My point is that I do not believe she has truly realized how damaging a divorce is to everyone on the financial side. Regardless of how we settle even if split in half, supporting 2 homes reduces everyone's standard of living drastically. I want to do what I have always done, which is to step in, handle the problem and solve it to take care of my family.

I am not trying to be mean or cruel although I'm positive that she will view whatever/however I act presently as bad. I am giving her time and space. I am just trying not to be a doormat, to GAL and ultimate goal of my wife realizing that our marriage is worth it, we come together and move forward!

I am re-reading DR and truly trying to get this. I don't know how to do this correctly and am grateful to those who post and reach out to help. This is life changing no matter how it goes.

I will strive every moment to conduct myself with dignity and honor my wife.