But what about helping me to understand the position. Communicating with me on what steps I should be taking and supporting me?
She checked out long ago. Then, when she had already decided to divorce, she put all the pressure on me to 180 everything she felt wrong.
Not only that, posturing to win complete custody of our kids.
Yes you are right about my behavior, but not about how much work we both gave to make it work. I gave 100 And she gave 100. And after 13 years, she quit on us. I will quit all of that behavior that destroyed my marriage. That is my personal commitment to myself. Not to get her back, but for me and my kids.
We all lose in divorce. Everyone. She thinks that running from our issues and escaping to someone else will be better. Sorry. We have kids. It just gets more complex and the hurt, pain, and even LOVE will always be there...and it's sad.
