Hi Steve. Thanks for the advice. I am now just following lawyers advice and preparing for the worst, hoping for the best.
Mentally, not sure where I am. She has me as the bad guy in all this. Guess that's what you have to do to get through a divorce your spouse says they will do anything to prevent.
The echo chamber of validation from friends who tell her to leave me, but have nothing at stake and who do not know me certainly doesn't help. Her emotional affair partner certainly makes it seem the grass is greener.
What can I do now than follow DB and DR last resort? I have to detach, GAL, and go thru the motions of moving on. It [censored], because I love her and she loves me I think, but wants to lay blame for all of her unhappiness on me. Yes, I have my faults. I have made mistakes. Now, I will respect and love her the only way I can now. By giving her the divorce she wants. And that makes me confused still...but acceptance takes time.
All communications are thru texts. I will be about kids visits and scheduling remediation in next month or two.
I am still working on me. I have more clarity on my part in the loss of my marriage. Trying to work on those issues and remain positive and hopeful that all things happen for good reasons!
Hope you guys can see how messed up this situation feels to me. Trying to do the best that I can one day at a time.
Been thinking perhaps she will change her mind eventually...but needing that outcome would be a serious mistake to really put my heart and soul into believing.
Externally, my actions will be Sandis rules at DB and actions to GAL.
Thanks everyone. Please feel free to leave a few comments.
