First post, need someone to listen

[SteveLW]

InFocus, glad the TRO got dismissed. That was garbage. It is scary how quickly a woman can get those these days.

I just want to have some say in what days I get the kids, but I don't want to be too picky. Any advice here?

Talk to your lawyer. You did the right thing getting one. Obviously already paid dividends with the TRO being dismissed.

As far as how to proceed with your wife, read up on LRT. I think you may be at the point where you need to employ it. I know earlier in the thread you were advocating for doing some pursuing despite advice against it. How has that worked for you? You have the opportunity to do a 180 in this regard. I'd really consider it in your case since your W seems so obstinate. Going no contact with an obstinate spouse will often time get them curious. "Why has he backed off?"

No more outburst. Kill her with kindness in every interaction you have with her. She has shown a penchant for running for a TRO, don't give her ANY ammo. She calls you a lowdown so-and-so, you let it roll off your back.